Writing on ADHD, law and divorce.
Practical insight for lawyers, law firms and ADHDers navigating divorce.
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I need to say it, but I'm worried it will backfire...
After a lifetime of shame, you finally understand you have ADHD. Now you're divorcing, and you're terrified disclosure will be weaponised against you.
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Whose money is it anyway?
It came from your salary and it's in your bank account, so it's yours? During divorce, that feeling is understandable — but it misses the unpaid labour that built the life together.
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How to get the most from your initial consult with your divorce lawyer
Free 45-minute consults are your one shot to size up a lawyer. Here's how to prep, what to bring, and how to run the meeting — ADHD-brain included.
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"I don't need a piece of paper to prove I love someone."
Cohabiting couples often skip the legal conversation because love shouldn't need paperwork. But if your brain runs on Now and Not Now, the protection you avoid might be the most literal version of commitment there is.
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It looks like withdrawal. It feels like protection.
Divorce is supposed to be the moment your friends show up. For a lot of ADHD people, it's the moment they go quiet instead — and that leaves them vulnerable.
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"Sorry, me again."
The text before the text — the apology you draft before you dare ask your solicitor a question. If you don't understand how they're explaining things, that isn't your fault.
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I was already coaching them. I just wasn't allowed to.
Long before Awaken Potential existed, I was already doing the job — coaching clients through Form E and deadlines — without the training, the time, or the pay for it. Here's the gap that convinced me to leave family law and build something built for it.
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The ADHDer's introductory guide to divorce
A practical guide I wrote for Stowe Family Law on what ADHDers need to know when navigating divorce — from disclosure and deadlines to finding the right support.
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I once acted for a client I couldn't figure out
Clever, reasonable, and genuinely wanting a good outcome — but every deadline was a struggle. What I couldn't see then was that it was never about caring less; it was about executive function.
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What your divorce lawyer doesn't know which is costing you more than money…
In divorce, ADHD doesn't struggle with the law — it struggles with the paperwork. That's not a legal problem, it's executive function, and it's being billed at £300+ an hour.
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Your perfectly performing ADHD lawyer is not OK
Yes, they're hitting targets, delivering excellent work and staying on top of deadlines. But that performance is often masking an unsustainable reality. Here's how to spot it — and what to do about it.
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The biggest lie that I told myself as an ADHD lawyer…
The chargeable hour model punishes ADHD brains. Here's how expecting to hit targets 'like everyone else' was the real lie — and why leaving ADHD lawyers to find their own workarounds is exploitation.
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Diagnosed and dumped — what is the point of getting an ADHD diagnosis?
A diagnosis isn't a silver bullet or a box of superpowers — it's a starting point. What I wish I'd known after getting mine, and why the real work begins after.
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The biggest barrier to innovation in law firms isn't money, talent, or strategy. It's fear
Why fear of risk — not budget or brains — is the real blocker of progress in law, and what it takes to be the one who leads instead of follows.
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There's an elephant in the room in law and lawyers would rather leave than say it out loud…
The legal profession has started calling its old culture toxic — but is it really changing? Why a third of lawyers want out within five years, and what would actually make them stay.
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Imagine buying the newest iPhone… and only using the calculator.
Law firms hire ADHD lawyers for their spark — then box them into systems that suppress it. Why accommodations aren't charity, they're ROI.
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When your manager asks 'what adjustments do you need?'
Why asking an ADHD-er what reasonable adjustments they need can be counterproductive — and what employers should do instead.
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ADHD Lawyers and their managers, they're on the same team so why don't they trust each other?
ADHD employees leaving jobs fast. Employment Tribunal cases rising. Most of it comes down to one thing: reasonable adjustments. Here's what both sides need to know.
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